Do you know what your best size is? You should be a size awesome. If you are, it doesn’t matter what you wear. It’s about the size of your confidence.
We’ve all seen that gorgeous person that turns heads. The thing that we don’t notice is that they aren’t always the most beautiful person in the room. It’s the way they walk and hold themselves that makes us stop and take notice. Everyone else in the room pales in comparison. Or that great looking person that’s nasty to the cashier or waiter. We don’t notice much after the attitude flies.
It’s all about the attitude. I’m not talking the gold chains, unbuttoned shirt swagger, but true confidence in who you are. You are in control of your self esteem and how you feel about yourself. If you are happy with who you are, the rest just seems to fall into place. But how do you get comfortable with yourself? Here are some tips.
Forget The Vanity
Find your own style and stop caring what size you wear. I have a pair of size 6 jeans from Old Navy that were a gift for my 21st birthday. I’ve never to this day been able to get them more than halfway up my thighs, yet I’m a size 4 in today’s Old Navy. Stores figured out that we are driven by vanity and have adjusted their clothes sizes to match.
Fit The Version Of You That You Are Now
Figure out what looks good on you regardless of the size and make sure it fits. When I finally got smaller, I didn’t want to rush out and buy a bunch of clothes. I wore things that were several sizes too big, and ended up with a lumpy looking backside and feeling like I was wearing my mom’s clothes. If you feel horrible in your clothes, there’s no hope of confidence. The same applies if something is too small. You’ll be tugging at it all day and readjusting. Make sure what you wear fits. If you are changing sizes, shop the clearance racks or even second hand stores. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune to look good.
Walk With Purpose
Even if you don’t know where you’re going, walk like you do. People with confidence walk quickly and with their head up and their eyes focused. Dance as if no one were watching and don’t care if they actually are. I bust a move all the time in public. Part of it is to see The Kid’s reaction, but it’s mostly because it’s fun and I don’t care what others think about my fun.
Stand Up Straight
You can’t walk with purpose if you’re slumped over unless you happen to go by the name of Igor or live in a bell tower. Stand up straight and own your walk. Plus you’ll give yourself an instant tummy tuck in the process. Who wouldn’t love that. True story. I was tired and walked into GNC the other night after my workout wearing a form fitting top. I realized I wasn’t standing up straight or holding my stomach in when the damn cashier recommended a new “belly fat burner” to me and said I’d like it much better than the multivitamins I was buying. Pah, belly fat burner my backside! I swear this really happened Wednesday night. Enough said, stand up straight and poke me if I don’t follow my own advice! 😉
Compliment Others And Mean It
Nothing perks me up more than giving others compliments. Does the woman in line with you have a pretty shirt? How about the guy getting ready to pass you? Say hi and tell them. Smile and tell someone to have a great day. Tell the cashier that she’s doing a good job. When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people and it will rub off back on you. I love seeing a grouchy person and giving them a big wave.
These are just 5 ideas to get you going on a mission to build confidence. None of them have anything to do with losing weight or changing the way you look drastically. It’s all about the attitude. Get out there and be a size awesome.
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